Sunday, July 26, 2009
Men are not good listeners
It's true men are not good listeners. Every woman has experienced the frustration of giving their man a simple task to complete only to watch them fail in amazement. Sure women can be nagging and annoying, but when you guys fuck up even the simplest of request it's easy to see how a woman could become that way. For example, I went out with a friend and her boyfriend last night and she asked him to get her a diet Pepsi. He then asks if I wanted anything and I tell him to get me the same thing. He buys one diet Pepsi (for me) and two regulars (for her and him). Later he claims that she asked for a regular which I'm amazed that he remembers it that way when I asked him to get me the same thing she asked for yet I'm the only one with a diet Pepsi.
Back in the caveman days it might have been excusable for an man to come home after hunting for dinner all day to forget to bring home some extra leaves for the cave woman's period. After All he was just trying to avoid being killed by a man eating lion for chrissakes. But today, when guys have no problem out right asking for sex (which isn't romantic), can't remember to get a diet Pepsi for his girl.
Men are a selfish breed who only seek justice for themselves with no regard to the woman and what she's worth. And women, because we also look for the perfect opportunity to bitch about something, fall victim to their selfish handicap for the justice of being right. That's right. Women like to be right and we will never pass up an opportunity to prove it.
For example, my friend asked her husband to get her a lemonade and he came back with a strawberry milkshake with a banana dipped in the middle. His reasoning was that he wanted her to try something new. It's moments like this that causes huge arguments and fights that last days in a relationship and causes friends like me write blogs about the stupid things men do.
So what is the problem that men have with listening? Seriously, what is the mechanical default in men's brain that prevents them to pay attention to the smallest of details? I know answer is not out their, but it doesn't matter because this isn't a problem that will ever be fixed. It's just part what makes men men. Let's face it women, he ain't never going to remember your birthday. It's the same time every year, but he just won't remember. Or he might never remember y'alls anniversary, or where you went on your first date and you know what, that's just shit on us.
Remember back in the day when that wonderful song from Destiny's Child came out called "Bills, Bills, Bills"? The song is about a boyfriend who starts using up his girlfriend's cellphone bill, making her pay every time they go out, maxing up her credit cards and going on shopping sprees with his friends. So she decides to get rid of him because he can't pay the bills that he's racking up on her credit.
Now, when the song came out there was this whole debate with men vs. women with the men asking "why she can't pay her own bills?" Many frustrated women fought to explain the song's theme to these hard headed me only to have their argument fall on deaf ears. When men here this song they don't hear the lyrics,
"Now you've been maxing out my cards/
Giving me bad credit buying me gifts with my
Own ends/ Haven't paid the first bill /
But you're steady heading to the mall /
Going on shopping sprees perpetrating /
to your friends that you be balling /
And then you use my cell phone /
Calling whoever that you think at home/
And then when the bill comes all of a sudden
you be acting dumb /Don't know where none of these
calls come from /When your mama's number's here more than once..."
The only line they hear is the course which goes,
"Can you pay my bills
Can you pay my telephone bills
Can you pay my automo-bills
If you did then maybe we could chill
I don't think you do
So, you and me are through"
And no matter how hard you explain it to them they always prove us right when it comes to listening. It's true that people believe what they want to believe and hear what they want to hear. I'm sure any guy will tell you about a time when their girl accused him of cheating when his entire story clearly explained he did not. The reason? People like drama. Especially men. Yeah, women like it too, but a woman would put in more effort to change themselves to reduce drama before a man would. I know this because I have done it, my girlfriends have done it, the men....NEVER.
Men claim that their woman is always nagging, always complaining and blah blah and then they blame her for causing the drama. Stop right there. Yeah, women do nag but that's only because men procrastinate.
I once told an ex to take out the garbage for me and my grandma. We were cooking and needed to make a new garbage bag because this one was full. My boyfriend said yeah he'll do it, but later. We didn't need it done later, we needed it to be done now. Otherwise we wouldn't have asked. Women are very good at giving directions and if it's something that can be put off until later then we'll tell you that it could be done later. We will literally say "Baby, I need you to take out the garbage later" or "Baby when you leave out can you take the garbage with you." If we're doing something to make your life easier the least you could do is get off your fucking ass for 2 minutes to run the garbage down to the trash.
Then of course when we just take matters into our own hands one of two things will happen, we're either going to yell at you for not doing what we asked when we asked or you're going to get upset at us for doing it ourselves because you claim that you were going to do it, but later. Either one is going to start an argument which could have been avoided it men only did what?.... Got up and did what we asked in the first place.
And this is why the drama is created by the guys. Because they know and expect us to get frustrated and angry about them not doing what we asked and they know an argument will come out of it. Otherwise they would have just gotten their lazy ass up and did what you asked.
And ladies if your man's response to you taking out your garbage is "whatever" or he seems glad you did it so he wouldn't have too, he is running game on you and you need to check your man. I'm not saying you need to "control" him or make him do what you say. But if he isn't concerned about your feelings and your upset and you don't tell him. Then this is not good for the relationship. If your emotional stage is not strong and he is not concerned then you will not be happy.
So in conclusion I just want to say fellas, if you ever want to stop your girl from nagging on you all the time then start listening to what she is telling you.
Back in the caveman days it might have been excusable for an man to come home after hunting for dinner all day to forget to bring home some extra leaves for the cave woman's period. After All he was just trying to avoid being killed by a man eating lion for chrissakes. But today, when guys have no problem out right asking for sex (which isn't romantic), can't remember to get a diet Pepsi for his girl.
Men are a selfish breed who only seek justice for themselves with no regard to the woman and what she's worth. And women, because we also look for the perfect opportunity to bitch about something, fall victim to their selfish handicap for the justice of being right. That's right. Women like to be right and we will never pass up an opportunity to prove it.
For example, my friend asked her husband to get her a lemonade and he came back with a strawberry milkshake with a banana dipped in the middle. His reasoning was that he wanted her to try something new. It's moments like this that causes huge arguments and fights that last days in a relationship and causes friends like me write blogs about the stupid things men do.
So what is the problem that men have with listening? Seriously, what is the mechanical default in men's brain that prevents them to pay attention to the smallest of details? I know answer is not out their, but it doesn't matter because this isn't a problem that will ever be fixed. It's just part what makes men men. Let's face it women, he ain't never going to remember your birthday. It's the same time every year, but he just won't remember. Or he might never remember y'alls anniversary, or where you went on your first date and you know what, that's just shit on us.
Remember back in the day when that wonderful song from Destiny's Child came out called "Bills, Bills, Bills"? The song is about a boyfriend who starts using up his girlfriend's cellphone bill, making her pay every time they go out, maxing up her credit cards and going on shopping sprees with his friends. So she decides to get rid of him because he can't pay the bills that he's racking up on her credit.
Now, when the song came out there was this whole debate with men vs. women with the men asking "why she can't pay her own bills?" Many frustrated women fought to explain the song's theme to these hard headed me only to have their argument fall on deaf ears. When men here this song they don't hear the lyrics,
"Now you've been maxing out my cards/
Giving me bad credit buying me gifts with my
Own ends/ Haven't paid the first bill /
But you're steady heading to the mall /
Going on shopping sprees perpetrating /
to your friends that you be balling /
And then you use my cell phone /
Calling whoever that you think at home/
And then when the bill comes all of a sudden
you be acting dumb /Don't know where none of these
calls come from /When your mama's number's here more than once..."
The only line they hear is the course which goes,
"Can you pay my bills
Can you pay my telephone bills
Can you pay my automo-bills
If you did then maybe we could chill
I don't think you do
So, you and me are through"
And no matter how hard you explain it to them they always prove us right when it comes to listening. It's true that people believe what they want to believe and hear what they want to hear. I'm sure any guy will tell you about a time when their girl accused him of cheating when his entire story clearly explained he did not. The reason? People like drama. Especially men. Yeah, women like it too, but a woman would put in more effort to change themselves to reduce drama before a man would. I know this because I have done it, my girlfriends have done it, the men....NEVER.
Men claim that their woman is always nagging, always complaining and blah blah and then they blame her for causing the drama. Stop right there. Yeah, women do nag but that's only because men procrastinate.
I once told an ex to take out the garbage for me and my grandma. We were cooking and needed to make a new garbage bag because this one was full. My boyfriend said yeah he'll do it, but later. We didn't need it done later, we needed it to be done now. Otherwise we wouldn't have asked. Women are very good at giving directions and if it's something that can be put off until later then we'll tell you that it could be done later. We will literally say "Baby, I need you to take out the garbage later" or "Baby when you leave out can you take the garbage with you." If we're doing something to make your life easier the least you could do is get off your fucking ass for 2 minutes to run the garbage down to the trash.
Then of course when we just take matters into our own hands one of two things will happen, we're either going to yell at you for not doing what we asked when we asked or you're going to get upset at us for doing it ourselves because you claim that you were going to do it, but later. Either one is going to start an argument which could have been avoided it men only did what?.... Got up and did what we asked in the first place.
And this is why the drama is created by the guys. Because they know and expect us to get frustrated and angry about them not doing what we asked and they know an argument will come out of it. Otherwise they would have just gotten their lazy ass up and did what you asked.
And ladies if your man's response to you taking out your garbage is "whatever" or he seems glad you did it so he wouldn't have too, he is running game on you and you need to check your man. I'm not saying you need to "control" him or make him do what you say. But if he isn't concerned about your feelings and your upset and you don't tell him. Then this is not good for the relationship. If your emotional stage is not strong and he is not concerned then you will not be happy.
So in conclusion I just want to say fellas, if you ever want to stop your girl from nagging on you all the time then start listening to what she is telling you.
Hello and Welcome
My name is Asil and I will be blogging here about things and observations about my life. I know most of you don't know me and won't give two shits if I had a bad day or is currently experiencing a breakdown. That's not what this blog is about. This blog is about sharing my past experiences and what I've learned from them.
Over the last several years of my life I have gone through some crazy experiences with sex, men and women. Some that only my friends know and we laugh at and some that I am currently dealing with alone. Some of these experiences are my own but my friends have (or you have) experienced and I simply have an opinion about. I will be writing blogs related to what I have learned from the mistakes in my past (or other's mistakes) and talk about the people who have entered my life and made as impact.
I will also be giving advice about relationships because honestly, I think can. I will even have topics that I talk about that doesn't relate to me directly, but it's what's on my mind. The majority of my subject matter will be for mature audience and open minded people. I will be very blunt, but not for the purpose to shock you but to tell it like it is. It's my blog and I'll fucking curse if I want too. I will write the way I talk and I will speak freely about my friends problems, though I will not reveal their identity (because that's fair).
So please free to leave whatever comments you like.
Over the last several years of my life I have gone through some crazy experiences with sex, men and women. Some that only my friends know and we laugh at and some that I am currently dealing with alone. Some of these experiences are my own but my friends have (or you have) experienced and I simply have an opinion about. I will be writing blogs related to what I have learned from the mistakes in my past (or other's mistakes) and talk about the people who have entered my life and made as impact.
I will also be giving advice about relationships because honestly, I think can. I will even have topics that I talk about that doesn't relate to me directly, but it's what's on my mind. The majority of my subject matter will be for mature audience and open minded people. I will be very blunt, but not for the purpose to shock you but to tell it like it is. It's my blog and I'll fucking curse if I want too. I will write the way I talk and I will speak freely about my friends problems, though I will not reveal their identity (because that's fair).
So please free to leave whatever comments you like.
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